Member Code of Conduct + Consent Policy
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TL;DR - Code of Conduct
Membership means you agree to the rules below. They’re simple, direct, and enforced.
- Consent is mandatory. Ask first. Consent must be enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing. Silence or hesitation = no.
- Respect boundaries. Stop immediately if asked. Use/obey safe words and signals.
- Zero harassment/discrimination. No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, ageism, or body shaming.
- Privacy. What happens at The Shop stays here. No photos/videos without explicit permission from everyone.
- Play responsibly. Negotiate scenes. Clean/reset equipment. Follow DM/staff directions without debate.
- Substances. No illegal drugs. Alcohol responsibly. Impairment is not consent; you may be removed.
- Accountability. Staff decisions are final. Violations can mean warnings, suspension, or permanent removal without refund.
Bottom line: Respect consent, respect people, respect the space.
Full Consent & Conduct Policy (Details)
The Shop is a private social lounge for adults exploring ethical non-monogamy, kink, and other alternative relationship expressions. The top priority is a space that is safer, inclusive, and respectful. These policies reduce, but cannot eliminate risk. By entering The Shop, you agree to follow them and respect others’ boundaries.
Consent Policy
- ZERO Touch Without Permission: Do not touch anyone socially, sensually, or sexually without clear permission. Past behavior or observation of others does not equal consent.
- Ask Once Policy: Consent given under pressure, guilt, or manipulation is invalid. Only ask once.
- Explicit Consent Required: Activities must be agreed upon verbally or in writing. Non-verbal gestures, assumptions, or “vibes” are not enough.
- Informed Consent: Before play, discuss risks, limits, and safety measures. Use proper training, techniques, and equipment for kink activities.
- Impairment: If someone appears intoxicated or otherwise impaired, play is forbidden. Impairment does not excuse violations.
- Scene Integrity: No mid-scene re-negotiations except to remove activities. Altered states (e.g., subspace, intoxication) void consent.
- Safe Words: RED or the agreed SAFEWORD stops all activity immediately. Consent can be withdrawn at any time.
- Scene Participation: Do not join a scene unless invited by all participants.
- Non-Consensual-Looking Play: Inform staff before any scene that may appear non-consensual to onlookers.
- No Extreme Harm: Even with consent, activities that cause serious injury or exceed agreed expectations are not allowed.
- Privacy & Discretion: Do not out anyone or share personal information/photos without explicit permission.
- Ceasing Contact: If someone asks you not to contact them, respect that immediately. Staff must be able to reach you for club business.
Inclusion & Anti-Harassment
- Zero Harassment, period. Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, ageism, and body shaming are prohibited.
- Use people’s stated names and pronouns. If unsure, ask politely.
- Harassment, stalking, or intimidation is not tolerated online or on-site.
- Race play is forbidden. See here for more information. Race Play Policy
Privacy & Recording
- What happens at The Shop stays at The Shop.
- No photos/videos/recordings without explicit permission from everyone in frame and staff where required.
- Don’t share member identities or details outside the club without consent.
Play, Equipment & Space
- Negotiate clearly; know limits and health needs.
- Use barriers and hygiene best practices, and share potential health risks.
- Clean up and reset equipment after use; report issues to staff.
- Follow posted room guidelines and equipment rules.
- Don’t block paths or exits; respect capacity limits.
Substance Policy
- No illegal drugs on premises.
- BYO Alcohol is permitted, intoxication is not.
- Staff may remove anyone impaired or unsafe to self/others.
Reporting an Issue
We prioritize first-person reports. Anonymous or third-party reports may limit our ability to act.
Include as many of the following as you can:
- Your name, pronouns, and how to reach you
- What happened and when
- What was discussed beforehand
- Whether any safe words were ignored
- Who witnessed the incident
- Screenshots, messages, photos (if applicable)
- What you’d like to happen next
Investigation Process
- A neutral Consent Advocate (or equivalent) is assigned.
- Only the reporter, the person reported, and relevant witnesses are interviewed.
- No forced mediations or confrontations.
- Anyone may be asked to pause attendance while an issue is under review.
Outcomes & Accountability
- Warning - for unintentional/first-time boundary violations.
- Attendance Restrictions - temporary or partial access limits.
- Ban - permanent removal if someone is unsafe or incompatible with club values.
- Volunteers/Staff - may be removed from duty immediately pending review.
Violations may result in a warning, pause of play, removal from the event, suspension, or permanent loss of membership. Staff/DM decisions are final.
By activating or renewing your membership, you acknowledge you’ve read, understand, and agree to this Code of Conduct and Consent Policy.
Last updated: September 15, 2025